Maybe it’s my Buddhist nature that makes me so good at ignoring things. Or maybe it’s because I’m a lesbian of a certain age, and I’ve had plenty to ignore over the years.
It could also be that patriarchy is boring as well as toxic and I have lived – thriving — by ignoring it.
So when I was once again harassed online about my novel THEY, a biblical tale of secret genders (Adelaide Books; 2018), I sighed and was tempted to ignore it. I did for a few days. I was working on something new, making it easy to have single focus. But this homophobic response to THEY stayed in the back of my mind. I argued with myself that I was obliged to respond because I wasn’t just speaking for myself.
The online harassment that I speak of came in the form of two webpages (from different sites) that quoted extensively from homophobic passages in the Bible. Yes, there are homophobic passages in the Bible. The webpage talks about “distorted desires” and quotes extensively from the Apostle Paul (who scholars think was gay, hence his internalized homophobia).
One translation that was sent to me was “male prostitutes and homosexual offenders.” For some reason, I found this very amusing. The fact that anti “homosexual” sentiment does exist in the Bible is proof that queer people did exist in biblical times — the premise of THEY.
One website has a number of videos of gay-looking white men talking about the dangers of pursuing same sex attractions and ignoring what is in the bible. My knee-jerk response was a very loud voice in my mind that said, “IT IS NOT HEALTHY TO SUPPRESS YOURSELF.”
I’m tempted to say it was the voice of God. I thought I was kidding, but who knows?
It might have been her.
But it’s true: suppression of the self is not healthy for children or adults. It can – and often does – lead to self-destructive behavior.
I won’t get into why I think that there are entire websites devoted to the anti-gay parts of the Bible. (But I will say — It seems like someone doth protest too much.)
The fact that there is anti-gay sentiment in the Bible, doesn’t mean that LGBTQ people cannot find a spiritual home in religion. In fact, there are many welcoming congregations. This means that all are welcome, regardless of their sexual orientation.
This morning, I attended digital services at the Unitarian Universalist church of which I am a member. The service reminded all of us that we are in a period of change and to have hope for that change. The lay minister who led the service quoted the late John Lewis extensively, reminding us that we are here to make “good trouble.”
To learn more about my novel THEY, a biblical tale of secret genders (published by Adelaide Books New York/Lisbon), click here.